Short lesson, on out-competing other women....

Sorry people, I know it's been a really long time for this blog, I've been really busy the last few months, and don't expect it slow down any time soon, but I will try to post more often...... Now when it comes to competing with other women, you simply should refuse to indulge. You really don't need to. So many bw, instead of seeing each other as sisters, will instantly go on the attack with other females because they are interested in a particular male. We all know bw have been fighting awhile over bm because so many are in jail, they have become a scarce (un-needed) resource. But now I'm seeing more bw fighting over WM! Now I don't agree with this either. You should NEVER be fighting over a man regardless of race, creed, religion etc. That's tacky and classless. And it's totally un-unnecessary. You can out-pace other women without going to lower means anyway..... The trick is to subtly let a man know that you are interested, and then back off and let him come to you. You will have to be a little patient, because when it comes to bw, wm are a bit confused and frustrated. We unfortunately have so many bw running around screaming that they don't want anything white, that the many, many, bw who (sometimes secretly, and sometimes openly) want wm, get lumped in the same group as them. The problem is there are not enough bw telling the truth. So many stand quietly in the back ground while these foolish women scream this to the world. I'm sure I'm not the only woman who has ALWAYS been attracted to wm, but most won't say it. .. The easy way to out compete other women is to be sassy, but classy. To be interesting but not loud and vulgar, and to be attractive without ever being sleazy looking. So many women try so hard, and the trick is to try SOFT! If he knows you're trying, then you're doing it completely wrong! He should have no idea. When it comes to wm, it's really easy to out-pace and out-compete other bw because most will not even look his way until he's proven to their satisfaction that he likes bw. By that time, another smart bw has already snatched him up! Plus, most bw are still silently waiting for the BC to give them the ok to date, love and marry wm. Hello!-That's never going to happen! So those women have unfortunately eliminated themselves! When it comes to many (not all) ww, many are so used to being treated like queens by wm, that they don't appreciate all the wonderful things he does. Many men go out of their way for ww all their lives, and rarely even get a thank you! So many men are tired of their prima-donna ways, that many ww eliminate themselves.... The easiest way to snatch a man is to be exactly what he needs at that time in his life. The biggest men-stealer's in the world will tell you that all she did was OBSERVE, and see what he was desperately looking for, and then gave it to him! I keep telling women that men are just not too good at hiding things, it takes too much effort. All you have to do is really listen, and he will tell you everything you need to hear. Now when it comes to men remember they're not all alike, but they all BASICALLY want the same things, just like all women are not alike but we BASICALLY want the same things. Most men want.... To be protectors To be honored To have a best friend and a lover Want to feel important To out compete other men and get the dream girl... To produce, and take care of his family He wants to feel APPRECIATED!!!! Someone who REALLY LISTENS!!! To feel that even when he's old, fat, and ugly-she'll still love him..... The reason alot of Asian women are out competing ww these days for the best wm, is that many ww make it clear that if he doesn't have this, or doesn't have that, then she's gone or won't be bothered. This in turn causes him to feel used. Yes, he wants to give her the best, but he does NOT want it to feel like the relationship is contingent on it! He wants to feel like when he slays the dragon and brings home the bacon, she'll be there will hugs and kisses of gratitude, and not be whining about how The Jones next door have better this or better that! Many, many women have driven men away by not expressing gratitude for the things he continuously does. The need for appreciation is so basic that you can even see it in baby-males. I notice when my baby son picks up the bottle all by himself-he'll wait to see if I notice, and congratulate him before he drinks. So the bottom line is, if you want to out-compete bw, simply be open to an IR and don't wait to see if he really likes bw before giving him a chance... If you want to out-compete ww, simply be gracious and appreciative. Really let him know that his constant efforts, and giving really mean alot to you..... Another trick that many secretaries have used for ages is the 'talk yourself in love with me trick' You see, as people communicate, and share secrets-human nature takes precedence, and they grow closer and closer. Men, often cannot share very personal things with other men because of the whole strong males -don't cry persona. So many men will try to share their deepest insecurities and vulnerabilities with the women in their lives. Unfortunately many women don't listen. They're too caught up in their own lives, careers, children etc. This is why many men are stolen by secretaries every year. Many secretaries will give that ear that he needs so badly, and slowly the bond forms, before he knows it, he FALLS in love, and she skillfully talks him into divorcing the wife,and marrying her (why do you think they call it falling-instead of going into love? ) Most of the time, the man doesn't know what hit him-and had no intentions of being anything more than friends or lovers with the woman who snagged him!! For most men, the greatest gift you can give them is to really LISTEN. Don't just wait for him to stop talking so you can tell him how bad the kids were-really LISTEN. And don't worry if you can't solve his problems-he doesn't expect you to, he just needs you to listen.... A simple way to get your personality in check, is to ask yourself-would you want to go out with, and marry you? If not, then ask yourself why not, and fix the problem.....