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Hi Everybody. Clarice you were right. She was visual, and he was a feelings person. We will just go over the feelings personality for right now... Kinestestic (feelings ) men are usually very warm, and loving people. They respond to their world through their feelings. They make great friends as well as lovers because they are very concerned about your feelings, and are the warmest men you can find. They will dress for comfort rather than style. They will love the feel of things including skin, material, textures etc. They get hurt very easily because their feelings are always close to the surface. This is the man to tell an old hurtful secret to. He will be in his element trying to comfort you and give you solace. They often look down alot because the eyes travel down and to the R or L to access our feelings about something. Try this: Ask a friend what her room looks like. Watch her look up, and either to the left or right. (visual future, and visual past) you'll be able to tell what she is thinking by checking for a pattern. Now ask her how being in that room made her feel as a child, and watch her eyes dip down and go to the right or left. You'll be able to determine which is the past or future for her by watching closely. This is why you will often see emotional people with their heads downcast. They are in feelings mode and usually keeping themselves locked in a past memory. Back to your man. Tread on his feelings lightly. His words will ALWAYS give him away if you listen closely. Instead of saying "She's being a b*tch!" He'll say something like "she runs hot and cold!" or "She's just cold as hell, and I can't be bothered" He will constantly make remarks about feelings, textures, senses. For instance. I remember watching a friend argue with her boyfriend. She kept saying "Don't you see how stupid it is for you to wear that shirt?" How can it not be clear how silly you'll look in it. Everyone's gonna laugh at you!" She was really upset because he did not seem to care one bit. He responded to her; "I don't care what people say, I want to be comfortable, and this shirt is like an old friend, warm, comfortable, and well-worn. I feel like you're not listening to me. I'm telling you what I want, and you don't care. You're cold as hell, and only think about yourself!" Things were getting heated, and I decided to talk to her. After I coached her for a few minutes, she went back to him, and said: "Honey, you're right I understand how you feel about the shirt, but it makes me really uncomfortable to know that ppl are saying stuff about you. Why don't we save the shirt for quiet times at home, and wear something a little more formal tonight. I'd really appreciate it, and seeing you all dressed up makes me want to wrap my arms around you and never let go!" He fell for it immediately. All the sudden he 'saw' her side of it. Many times that's all it takes to really understand where your man is coming from. Thank y'all for tuning in-see you next post........